The male office workers worked hard to help themselves, saved enough assets to prepare for retirement and comforted their hard-working wife. However, due to long-term neglect to family-running relationships, they ended up being divorced and divided in their later years. According to Japanese media reports, 65-year-old Yukiichi Zhongshan (pseudonym) retired from a company that has served for 42 years. He has been a businessman in a small and medium-sized enterprise with a maximum annual income of 8 million yen (about NT$1.8 million), which is a good salary, and the two children have also been independent.
His wife helped her family through odd jobs. The family's total assets, pension and savings are about 20 million yen (about NT$4.5 million), and the monthly annuity is about 260,000 yen (about NT$58,000). The housing loan has been cleared. As long as it is not too luxurious, the couple thinks they can live up to their good feelings.
During his career in Zhongshan, I devoted myself to work all the time and preferred to relax at home on holidays, not the kind of person who is passionate about family activities. Although his wife is busy with family and part-time jobs on weekdays, he has never expressed his gratitude.
He always believes that even if there is not much talk between husband and wife, they will support each other and live together. Maybe it is influenced by my parents not much about each other, and I think the relationship between husband and wife is the same as my potential idea.
At the moment of retirement, Zhongshan specially prepared a gift for his wife, for the first two-person trip since his honeymoon. He planned an eight-day leisurely overseas trip to Hawaii, which is suitable for couples in their 60s. The total cost of air tickets, hotels and local travel itineraries exceeds one million days.
On the day of retirement, he was late because he participated in a delivery party held by his colleagues in the company. The next morning, he saw his wife preparing breakfast for him as usual, and said to her happily: "I finally retired, and the next thing is our lives. Let's start with a trip!"
's wife's response was completely beyond his expectations. She just said lightly, "Travel? Please go alone, I will move out." After speaking, she quietly left her seat.
The wife planned to divorce independently and proposed to divorce. The same was true for the division of property.Zhongshan was shocked by his wife's response and couldn't help but shout at her: "How do you live alone? You have no money, how can you survive?" However, the wife had already taken the divorce to heart, and began to plan to transfer from part-time jobs to regular jobs, and also found a job that could continue working even when she was over 70 years old.
The wife of Zhongshan has even decided on the apartment one person wants to live in, and the two children have also expressed their support for their mother. Due to the blame, Zhongshan has not made any more contributions in addition to providing household goods in recent years, and his wife has long been silently disappointed with him. In the end, Zhongshan fell into an isolated and helpless situation. A few days later, I received the lawyer's divorce agreement and finally realized that my wife knew it.
's wife's request was to seek a total of 18 million yen (about NT$4 million) based on the estimated sales value of the apartment she originally lived with her family and her deposit. In addition, she also asked to divide the retirement annuity that the couple had jointly paid.
Mr. Zhongshan initially strongly resisted this huge amount of money, but when he learned that his wife did not require the maximum limit set by law, he could only accept these conditions. The divorce was finally established, and the heavy blow brought by the two losses of personal finances made Zhongshan’s situation even more difficult.
Living in a lonely apartment after divorceZhongshan chose to give cash to his wife during divorce, and kept his original apartment. However, the bank's deposits were less than 10 million days, and part of the retirement annuity was also distributed to his wife, which greatly reduced his income.
Although it owns a spacious apartment, considering the monthly management fees and repair funds, and the current annuity income is difficult to cover these expenses, Zhongshan finally decided to sell the original house and move into a smaller apartment. In the past, Zhongshan has always been responsible for family affairs by his wife and felt very unsuitable for his own life. Every day I am worried and lonely.
Divorce in mature age continues to increaseAccording to data from Japan's Ministry of Health and Health, couples who have maintained marital relations for more than 20 years are considered "divorce in mature age". In 2022, Japan's maternal divorces account for nearly one-quarter of the total divorces, and the number is still rising.
Just like the family in Zhongshan, many wives spend years of tolerance; when the husband retires and stays at home for a long time, the unbearable emotions eventually lead to divorce. In fact, there are many such examples.
Even if the husband thinks that he has always handed over the money to the family, it may not necessarily mean that his wife feels satisfied. If you naively think that it will be too late to report your partner after retirement and then re-engage with your husband and wife after retirement. If couples can communicate more and thank you more on weekdays, they may be completely different.